Month: October 2014

Emotions Throughout The Divorce Process

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There are so many emotions that are experienced throughout the divorce process.  It is hard to go through the process without feeling a little bit of everything.  The hope is that it won’t all hit at one time and that having a better understanding of what you will be experiencing it won’t be as difficult of a process to navigate.

One of the first emotions when going through a divorce is intense anger.  It may be that you are trying to convey a mixture of pain, anxiety or irritation that comes out as anger.  This feeling of intense wrath is a mechanism we use to shield ourselves.  We try to protect ourselves from the vulnerability we are feeling and this is often done using anger.  Projecting anger leave us in a state that doesn’t allow us to be discarded once again.

Another emotion that participants in a divorce succumb to is shock.  You may be caught completely off guard when you are served with divorce papers.  People have been known to be caught off guard; unaware that the troubles in their marriage have led to a request for a divorce.  That feeling, the one in which it feels as if someone punched you as hard as they could right in the gut.  Your life is going to change, it will be scary and it starts right now.

Another emotion that is often felt is the feeling of rejection and despair.  Despair comes from being rejected.  The feeling of someone not accepting you brings back feelings in your life of when you have previously been disregarded.  Often times when your marriage fails people feel as if they too have failed.  You are not damaged goods just because your marriage did not work.  Your dreams have not failed; all that has happened is that you need to trade in the old dreams for new ones.

The fear of being alone is something that comes along with divorce.  This is especially true if you have been in a relationship for an extended period of time.  If you are unfamiliar with spending time by yourself the feeling can be quiet scary and cause you to have an overwhelming level of fear.  Trust yourself, it is possible to survive on your own without the help of your partner.

When any change occurs and a new phase of life is about to get underway it can be pretty scary.  It is alright to be scared.  Being scared is natural.  It would be unrealistic to believe that this phase would pass without it.

You will feel quiet bitter towards your partner and others that may be helping them through the process. Seeing your perfect family being ripped apart, thrown into turmoil because your spouse filed for divorce will cause you to be overcome with bitterness.  When your partner files you will blame them; you will blame them for an outcome that you feel you don’t deserve.

Allow yourself to go through the myriad of emotions you are sure to feel.  There is no right way to process your divorce.  A good divorce attorney will offer you referrals for assistance in handling your emotions throughout the entire divorce process.  Your divorce attorney will guide you; they are familiar with a process you are not so trust them and their instincts.  Hold on tight for the rollercoaster ride you are about to embark upon!

Longton DM, a subsidiary of Longton Law Offices is a divorce attorney specializing in Women/Mom’s in divorce throughout Trenton and the surrounding Michigan areas. Find us at http://www.michigandivorcelawyerforwomen.com.

Longton Law

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When Is Divorce The Only Option Left

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Divorce is not an easy way out of a marriage that is unsatisfying.  Many people consider divorce as a last resort and try incredibly hard to make their way through the difficult times in their marriages.  Vows are taken seriously and people fight to make relationships work. That is why when a divorce occurs it is not taken lightly as it is not an easy wait out of something that you worked so hard to revive.  In fact the divorce process is anything but simple but sometimes it is the only way out of a difficult situation that cannot be fixed.

If you have considered every other option and have found that a divorce is inevitable consider the following article.  It will help you better understand a variety of scenarios in which a divorce is for sure a better option for both you and your spouse.

  • A divorce is probable when you have really taken every other step to make your relationship work.  There are times when your marriage will have a bunch of rough patches but with a little work and understanding they can be repaired.  If you have been to marriage counseling and have put in an honest effort into fixing the issues in your relationship than divorce may be all that is left.  Divorce might be the only option left to ensure that you and your spouse don’t spend the rest of your lives making one another miserable.
  • When two people have grown apart and have completely changed there may be no way to create what you had to begin with.  If the person you married long ago is not the person you are married to now a divorce is often in your cards. When your goals, interests and future dreams no longer align it may be time to look into divorce as your next step.  When the gap between who you were and who you are now cannot be gapped it is time to call it quits.
  • If you can’t stand one another and are avoiding all contact with each other it is time to consider options in ending your marriage.   If you can’t talk with each other without it turning into an argument you can be assured you have problems in your marriage that cannot be fixed.  Your situation would be better off ending in divorce.
  • When you start to see your marriage or lack thereof affecting your children it is time to consider separating.  Believe it or not even with the difficulties that divorce causes children staying in an unhappy relationship that is visual to your children is worse.  Your children will be happier when they see that the two people that love them most in the world are happy as well.

When you have hit the wall and divorce is the option that your marriage is heading in contact a divorce attorney.  Talking with an attorney that specializes in divorce and family law will allow you to get an upper hand with your life after divorce.

Longton DM, a subsidiary of Longton Law Offices is a divorce attorney specializing in Men/Dad’s in divorce.  For experienced representation throughout the divorce process in Trenton, Michigan and the surrounding area you can find more information at http://www.michigandivorcelawyerfordad.com.

Longton Law

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Closing Procedures That Help To Protect Your Swimming Pools Plaster

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Another summer season has come and gone.  With temperatures dipping into the freezing realm in parts of the country it is time to make sure your in-ground pool is closed properly.  If you haven’t had time to close the pool yet be sure to keep your pool pump running to avoid freezing which will cause cracks in the plaster.  The materials that the pipes, heaters, filters, pumps and shell are made from are all very strong but when they freeze, they will expand.  This will cause cracks in even the strongest of materials.

It is necessary to take proper precautions in closing your gunite plaster pool.  Below you will find tips to help you properly close your in-ground gunite plaster pool.

  • The first thing you need to do when closing your pool is to balance the pool water.  The pools pH, alkalinity and calcium hardness levels need to be adjusted to prepare for the harsh winter cold.  This should be done a few days prior to the actual closing of the pool.  You may also want to shock the pool with granular chlorine while you are balancing the pool water.  This needs to occur before you put the winter pool cover onto the pool.  High levels of chlorine will ruin the pool cover.
  • The pool should be thoroughly cleaned before you close the pool.  This will avoid issues from occurring that could be present in the spring such as stains on the pools plaster.  Also debris and algae left present in the pool water will dilute the chemicals leaving the environment more susceptible for more algae growth.
  • Lower the pools water.  The level in which you leave the pool water will be dependent on the pool cover you choose.  For a mesh safety cover lower the water to about a foot below the pools tile, for a solid pool cover or one that floats on the  surface the water level should be lowered to five inches below the pools tile.
  • Add in the winter pool chemicals.  This will require you to follow the directions on the pool closing kit.  These chemicals can be purchased at any local pool center.  Once the pool water level has been lowered it is the perfect time to add in the winter pool chemicals.
  • Clean and store the pool filter and blow out all lines that could contain water that could possibly freeze and crack the pools equipment.  Remove pumps, heaters and automatic chlorination systems.  Place all of these pieces together in a temperature controlled environment to avoid any possibly freezing that can occur.
  • Plug all open lines and shut the power to the pumps off.  This can be done by switching off the circuit breaker.  Also be sure to turn off all timers just in case someone accidently turns the circuit breaker back on.

If this seems all to complex or if it is your first time you are closing your pool for the winter the best piece of advice I can give to you is to hire a professional pool closing company to come in and walk you through the process.  They can help to address the specifics surrounding your precise in-ground pool needs.

Pound Pool Plastering repairs commercial and residential gunite swimming pools including coping, tile and plaster repairs. For more information or to request a quote, visit us at http://www.pound-pool-plastering.com/.

Pound Pool Plastering

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Establish Security With An Electronic Entrance Gate

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One of the most effective methods to establish security and inaccessibility to your home is to install an electronic driveway gate.  Depending on your needs and the amount of money you have budgeted there are arrays of options when it comes to driveway gates.  While assessing the selection in electronic entry gates for your home and driveway consider the size, strength and special features that are offered while keeping in mind special requirements set forth by your home owners association.

  • Determine The Size Of The Driveway Gate You Need: When purchasing a driveway gate one of the considerations needed to be considered is the size of the gate you need.  It is important not to base the size of the gate solely on your own vehicles but to also think about the emergency vehicles that may need to enter.  Leave additional space around the gate area to avoid any accidents having to do with driveway gates.
  • Automatic or Manual Gate Operators: One of the greatest benefits that come along with driveway entry gates is the ability for it to open with the touch of a button.  Manual driveway gates need to be opened and closed the way you would any standard gate system.  An automatic gate operates using a gate operator that is powered with electricity or using solar power.  Using a remote or entry pad you can open and shut the gate at will.  This is what makes electronic gates such a popular addition to your driveway.
  • Gate Designs Including Sliding and Swinging Gates: When choosing a driveway gate design you will be considering one of two options a slide or swing gate.  Just as their names apply the gate will either slide or swing open.  Take into consideration your property layout.  Swing gates are usually less expensive than sliding gates however they require additional space to open and close.  Evaluate the space that you have and purchase a gate design that fits your need.
  • Material Options For Your Driveway Gate: The driveway gate that you choose needs to be made from a durable material.  Gate options come in a variety of different materials including wrought iron, steel, wood, vinyl and aluminum driveway gates.  Choose a material that fits the style of your home and landscape as well as one that is strong enough to last a lifetime.

It is important to consider all of the options involved with purchasing an electronic driveway gate.  Online you will find a variety of options in gate designs, gate materials and gate operating systems to choose from.

SAC Fence Michigan offers a variety of electronic entry gates, access control entry systems and fence options for homeowners to choose from. You will find a variety of fencing options online at http://www.sacfencemi.com/.

SAC Fence

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Entering Into A Snow Removal Contract

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It is true, no matter how hard we try to fight it, winter is on its way.  We all know that with winter come mounds of snow, snow piled here, there and everywhere.  Snow removal is a chore that many people detest.  Knowing the snowy season is fast approaching has left many people considering the option of hiring a snow removal contractor to handle their winter needs.  If you are one of the thousands of households searching for a contractor to handle your snow removal needs this season we offer the following tips on hiring the best company for the job.

  • It is best to call around and have several companies out to estimate your snow removal job.  It is impossible for a contractor to quote you a rate over the phone.  A professional snow removal contractor would never attempt to bid out a seasonal job over the phone.The amount that you are charged will depend on a number of things including the size of the area needing to be cleared, if shoveling or snow blowing is also being requested and if excess snow needs to be removed from walk ways as well.  Also, consider if the company you are considering offers salt services.  It is important to keep in mind that the cheapest option may not always be providing the detailed services your area requires.
  • Ask for references from the following season.  Check with the company’s references to see if they were satisfied with the service the company provided.  Check with references to determine if the contractor came out on their own without being called or if the homeowner had to constantly call to ask if they were planning on coming out to plow.  Ask homeowners if there was ever any damage to the landscape or property in general.  If there was and issues find out how the homeowner was compensated.
  • Look into any complaints or praises given to the snow removal contractor through the better business bureau and online.  Online reviews are often the best place to find out about how satisfied or not people have been with a company’s service.
  • When you have decided upon a company for your snow removal needs the contractor will prepare a written agreement in which you will both be required to sign.  It will lay out the exact services you will be paying for and any additional costs that could ensue.  The contractors will layout whose responsibility it is if any damage is done to the property or the surrounding area.  Make sure the contractor is licensed and insured.  Do not hire someone that is not.  You will be liable for any injury or damage that takes place on the property no matter whose fault it is.

Be realistic when hiring any service company.  It is impossible for snow removal firms to predict the amount of snow fall that will occur in the coming season or during any one instance throughout the season.  Some major snowfalls will require your patience and understanding as commercial areas are always plowed before residential clients.  It may take longer than normal for your contractor to reach you during larger snow falls or if ice is present and salt needs to be applied.

CBA Outdoor Services is a local landscape design firm offering services, including snow removal, throughout Livingston and Wayne Counties. For more information on the services they offer to both commercial and residential clients look online at http://cbaoutdoors.com/.

CBA Outdoor Services

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Tips For Choosing an I.T. Firm To Handle Your Computer Repair Needs

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The world today relies on technology.  Without our computers working properly everyday life and business slows down to almost a halt.  This is why it is so important that you are familiar with a local computer repair shop that works to provide services not only to personal computers but also large corporate I.T. networks.  It is important that you find a company that can meet all of your needs no matter the size of your company or personally as a residential client.  It is crucial that the computer repair, I.T. specialists you choose are familiar with all of the following repairs that your network or personal computers may need.

Crucial Computer Repair Services

  • The most common issue with computers today is viruses and malware.  No matter how careful you are no matter what anti-virus protection you have installed your computers and networks are all exposed to hackers that wish to infect not only your computer but also your network.  It is important that you find a company that offers complete computer virus removal services.  Many local companies can remote into your computer and offer this service if you are in a pinch but be sure that you bring your computer in to their service center for a thorough cleaning and tune up.
  • Hardware repairs are the next service that needs to be offered by the I.T. Company you hire.  All repairs including hardware, physical damage and accessory replacements should be provided.  It is possible that your computer may only have some physical damage to face your computer; it is important that they can address this need as well.
  • It is not all about the main computer unit when it comes to I.T. networking.  Computer technicians working on your system also need to know how to work with computer accessories including scanners, printers and other essential parts that need to work with your system.
  • Find a company that offers data recovery and back up as well.  It is so important that all of your data be backed up.  Often times we see that this is not the case where in lies the need for data recovery.  If you have lost data that is irreplaceable you will want to have a professional who is aware of the time sensitivity of your issue and that will begin recovering what they can of your data as soon as possible.
  • Your I.T. professionals should be able to assess all situations including troubleshooting and network errors.  These issues are more complex than most computer repair issues and will need an expert to address them.
  • Maintenance is important when making sure your computer systems and networks are running in top condition.  Find a professional that values computer maintenance more than computer repair.  This will help to save you thousands of I.T. repair dollars in the long run.  Maintaining your computer is as important as maintenance on your car or your health.  Maintenance keeps issues from occurring which is important to avoid any disruptions in service.

Computers Plus Service, in Brighton Michigan, provides a wide range of valuable services for residential computer repair as well as a variety of commercial computer services to the entire Livingston County area including Howell, Brighton and the surrounding areas.  You can find out more about the services offered by CPS at http://www.cpsmi.com.

Creative Programs and Systems

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Saving Money On Shipping Services For Your Business

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Every business owner you meet will tell you that they are always concerned with ways to lessen expenses while achieving the same if not higher customer service levels.  This is something that is true of all businesses from all areas of the globe.  Even with economies picking up cost savings is something all businesses search for, every dollar counts.  There is no exception to this concept especially when shipping freight.

Freight companies can never put shipments on hold because of increase costs to gas or oil supplies.  They can never defer business in hope to achieve cheaper rates later on.   The same is true of companies shipping their products.  Your company may downsize their logistics division and restructure the transportation management division but shipment still need to be received and sent out.  Your company may need to look into outside carriers to ship goods.  There are several ways this can be achieved including couriers, parcel post, LTL shipping, full truckload shippers, air, rail or water shipping.

For freight shipping services to continue they must prove to be the best of the best.  The rates must be kept within reasonable industry standards, customer service must be better than the competitors and shipping times must continue to prevail.  When shipping costs increase it can really add a deep hole in your company’s budget.  Here are some tips to help achieve lower shipping rates while maintaining customer services and shipping times.

  • Choose to ship smaller amounts of product more frequently.  If your shipments are stored to achieve enough for a full truckload you are spending unnecessary funds for storage of the product.  Have your shipments sent out more often in smaller qualities.  Freight is charged not only on weight but the amount of space that is taken up with in the truck.  With this in mind you may see increased benefits in sending smaller loads out more frequently than allowing shipments to pile up.
  • It is less expensive to ship from company to company rather than company to residential.  Keep this in mind when shipping your company’s product out to residential customers.  If having them pick the product up at a local store will offer cost savings for your company consider this as a viable option.  Many people will drive to pick up their deliveries if it means that they would have to pick up the additional cost of shipping.
  • Stop spending money on unnecessary additional shipping services.  If you have a larger, heavy product come prepared to pick up the product on your own with the help of a friend or dolly system.  This is true even when receiving products.  Consider unloading the shipments on your own using your own equipment to save money.
  • Carting your product is often a better option over using a pallet.  Crates protect goods, save money; this is especially true in LTL shipping.  The lower ranking your product has the cheaper it will be to ship.  Crated products have less ranking than their pallet equivalents.

All of these tips are meant to be helpful in lowering your freight shipping costs.  You can find additional information online by searching for LTL shippers in your area.

Jefferson Diversified Group, LLC is a Global Logistics expert offering LTL shipping and more. Check out available rates today at http://www.detroitltl.com.

Detroit LTL

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The Art Of Age In Place Remodeling

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Aging in place is a concept that is easy to get on board with.  The concept of universal design and age in place remodeling are both widely accepted concepts within the home improvement arena.  This may possibly come from the idea that many of us are staying healthier longer and are able to care for ourselves within our home environment.  The idea of having the freedom of living alone taken away from us is frightening and for the most part something many of us want to avoid. This is completely possible with smart remodeling.

Tips To Consider For Age In Place Remodeling

  • First consider the space you live in.  Is the home all on one floor or are there levels of the home that you will need access too?  This is the first concern to address within every space.  If the home is a ranch are the hallways too long?  Do you easily lose stamina walking from one end of the house to the other?  If the home is on more than one floor will you consider the addition of an elevator or chair lift?  These are all pricey renovations that really need some forethought.
  • Install at least one entry way into the home that includes a no-step entry. With this comes some special considerations including making sure the space has a covered entry. Additional drainage and a level space to maneuver on outside of the entryway.
  • The doors within the home may need to be widened to accommodate the use of a wheelchair or walker.  Altering doorways can be difficult in that you have to be aware of wiring as well as the structural load of the home.  This is one alteration that may not be easy but is essential in easing access into and out of rooms within the home.
  • Another renovation that is often done with aging in place is the addition of pocket doors.  This allows the homeowner to have additional space to maneuver without the hassle of a door in the way.  Pocket doors have one drawback that is easily modified, the handles.  In order to accommodate aging hands and lessened dexterity add a pull to both sides of the pocket that fits just outside the pocket.
  • Bathroom spaces are always the most renovated rooms within homes that are undergoing basic changes to allow for aging in place.  The addition of a walk in tub is not necessary.  They are expensive and offer only a very narrow door in which to enter.   All of which I see to be a hazard.  Instead consider ripping out the tub and in its place adding a walk-in, no-step entry shower.  Include in the space easy to maneuver temperature controlled faucets, a built in bench seat with plenty of grab bars to help sturdy aging bodies as well as an adjustable, removable shower head.

When it comes to any age in place remodeling project consider how it will ease your lifestyle.  The list above includes the most common issues seen in homes that are renovating to allow for aging in place.

The Home Doctor, based in Livingston County including Brighton and Howell Michigan, offers a variety of home renovations to clients ranging from bathroom remodeling to age in place home modifications.  Contact http://glenmillerthehomedoctor.com/ today all of your home renovating needs.

Glen Miller The Home Doctor

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Choosing The Perfect Pair Of Diamond Studs

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There are a few essential pieces that stand the test of time; think about your favorite blue jeans, that purse that goes with everything, the perfect boots and your go to sweater.  The only thing missing from this list is a pair of diamond studs.  Take any outfit or mood swing, add a bit of sparkle in the form of diamond studs and you can literally go anywhere from the opera to the grocery store.  Diamond earrings literally make everything around them sparkle.  The only question now is how do you go about picking the perfect pair?

First let’s consider what makes diamond studs so appealing.  Legend has it that people once thought diamonds were actually fallen stars because of their brilliance. The manner in which a diamond takes in light and bounces it off of itself is unlike any other gemstone. Diamonds are the most universally sought after stone in the world.

Here are some tips on choosing the right pair of diamond studs.

  • Purchase Real Diamonds:  If you are going to have one pair of earrings that are your go to, perfect earrings to wear on any occasion you want them to be the real deal.  Think about the number of years you will have this one pair of earrings.  If you can’t afford a pair of real diamonds hold off for now.  Find a nice pair of pearls for the time being as they are a budget friendly alternative but start saving.  Skip that latte every day for the next year and before you know it you will have saved enough money to buy real diamond stud earrings.
  • It is so important that the pair of diamonds you choose match one another.  Finding a perfectly matched set of earrings is not going to be a simple task.  You will need to find a jeweler who is skilled in the art of matching diamonds.  You may find it easier to purchase loose diamonds that match and have them set into posts than to find a matching pair at a big box jewelry retailer.  Find a custom jewelry expert and they will understand the importance of a matching set of diamonds for your go to perfect diamond studs.
  • Don’t settle on any of the C’s of diamond buying only buy the best.  The cut, color, clarity and carat are all just as important on a pair of diamond studs as they are on an engagement ring.  Don’t listen to anyone who tells you different.  The sparkle and shine is more brilliant and fiery with top quality diamonds.  A smaller, higher quality diamond will look richer to the naked eye than a larger, lower quality diamond.
  • Size is important with everything including diamonds!  When buying earrings it is important to note that one carat diamond earrings actually means that each earring is a half carat.  They are one carat diamond weight when weighed together.  Make sure you buy the correct sized earrings for your ears.   Larger isn’t always better what does matter is that they sit on your ear the way you envision.  Larger diamond studs have a way of protruding which on smaller ears make look strange.  Choose the carat weight based on what looks good with your earlobes.
  • Show your personal style when choose the cut of your diamond stud earrings.  Round solitaire diamonds don’t fit every girl’s personality.  There are a variety of cuts to choose from.  Make sure you base your selection off your personal look.  Consider the cut of your engagement ring also.  Many women find it is ideal for the two to match.

Take your time when purchasing a piece of jewelry that will be your signature piece.  It make take some time but save for when you find the ideal pair.  It will show in the way you look and feel each and every time you wear them, even if it is only for a trip to the local laundry mat!

DaRoche Jewelers is on online jewelry company with a local feel. You will find a variety of options in jewelry, including custom diamond solitaire engagement rings, online at http://www.darochejewelers.com/.

DaRoche Jewelers

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How To Take Proper Care Of Your Jewelry

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People wear jewelry on a daily basis.  Very few people realize that they can preserve their jewelry using some forethought.  Follow the steps below in taking care of everything from your finest jewelry to costume pieces.

The first tip in caring for your jewelry is to remove pieces when you are performing tasks that expose the pieces to physical damage or chemicals.  For instance, when you are washing dishes it is best to remove all rings, bracelets and watches.  This helps to prevent soap residue from building up or accidently drowning a watch that is not waterproof.  Other tasks to consider removing jewelry for are gardening, household cleaning, car repairs and other common tasks that are taken on in our daily lives.

Apply makeup, perfume, lotion and hairspray before you put on your jewelry for the day.  All of these products contain chemicals that can cause damage to the gemstones as well as the metal on pieces of jewelry.  Putting jewelry on after you have made yourself up for the day will limit the exposure your jewelry has to these harmful materials and will in turn increase the longevity of your pieces.

When you are planning on going into a swimming pool or spa it is best to take of all of your jewelry and store it in a safe environment.  The chlorine in the water can cause a reaction with certain metals causing a change in color and possible damage to the structure of the piece.  To keep your pieces in top shape it is best to take them off before entering a spa or pool.

During sports is another time it is best to store jewelry.  A hard blow during practice or a game can damage a piece beyond repair not to mention the damage it could cause to someone’s person.  Jewelry of all kinds should be removed before you play any type of sport non-contact or contact.

It is important to remember that your jewelry only gets dirty when worn in the shower.  Many people think that the shower or bath is the ideal environment to clean jewelry.  What people need to remember is that anytime you are using soap of any kind to clean a film can form.  This film is what will make metal less shiny and gemstones dull.  Taking care of jewelry and removing it before you bathe or do any other task involving soap or chemicals will prevent the occasions in which your jewelry needs to be taken in for professional servicing.

DaRoche Jewelers is on online jewelry company with a local feel.  You will find a variety of options in jewelry, including custom diamond solitaire engagement rings, online at http://www.darochejewelers.com/.

DaRoche Jewelers

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